Life. What does that entail? Getting out of bed in the morning (groan!) and preparing to do something we would rather not be doing, most days of our lives? Looking in the mirror and not seeing the person on TV that we expect ourselves to look like? Going about our routines mechanically, as if we were robots designed to do the same thing day after day?
With so much to do, and so little time for fun in our lives, we can fail to see the humour in the many strange situations that happen to us and our loved ones. Just the simple fact that we expect ourselves to be something or someone we are not is funny in itself when you stop and think about it! If I am not a morning person, and I think I have to get up every day and be glad about it, I will fail every time! Perhaps if I just accepted the fact that I will be grumpy about it, I could start taking myself a little less seriously, and see the humour in my “grumpy bear” act, I could even begin to ham it up for the people around me, and create some humour for them too.
At those moments when life has pushed all our buttons and we are on the brink of behaving in an inglorious manner, we could give in to the impulse to behave badly, or we could take a moment ot reflect on how well designed our life is that it leaves no stone unturned in helping us see where we could improve ourselves. This realisation could just cause an outburst of hilarity worth sharing with whoever is present, including strangers. Every one benefits when we can see the funny side of our own life’s drama.
While it is unkind and not funny to laugh at misfortune, especially another’s, it can break tension in awkward situations, and definitely will release the inner tension we feel when we are upset with ourselves for something we think we could have done better. And while it is always OK to cry when we feel sad or frustrated, it is also OK to laugh when we are happy or when we see the ridiculous side of our frustrations. Often we see the humour in things after we have been sad or mad about them, and this is a sign that we have transformed our feelings and grown from the experience.
It can be so good for our relationships to embrace the humour in our day to day existence. We can take some time to focus on the little things that “drive us mad” and work out how this is actually funny, how the very fact that we have extra energy to be driven mad over little things is a sign that we actually have plenty of energy! We can choose to use that energy however we like, we can choose to be amused rather than frustrated by many of those little things. When we do this, our relationships improve and our whole life gets happier.
So the next time you catch yourself being “not amused” by something in your life, take a moment to look for the silver lining, the funny side of the situation, and watch your feelings transform!